(I suppose it) Depends on your definition.
I'm Intersexed. Physiologically, I have aspects of both "stereotypical" sexes.
By the definitions of many, I'm a Transsexual.
Depends on whom you ask. (If you ask me... I'm "Intersexed")
...and no.... I was "raised" (if you can call it that) "female".
Here's a juicy tidbit...
because of my "intelligence", I attended an "elite" all GIRLS school for 3 of my 4 High School years. (even though I was regularly escorted from the grounds for "being a boy"!)
Made life rather...
interesting.
Wednesday, July 31, 2002
Tuesday, July 30, 2002
(just transreflecting...)
I think that "we" affect many more people than we even realize... just by being who we are... and being vocal.
We're like a virus.
...and even those suicides say something.
note: I don't know that I consider myself a "transsexual" due to semantics... but... (I'm guessing) 7 out of 10 people would consider me such... so.... there!
We're like a virus.
...and even those suicides say something.
note: I don't know that I consider myself a "transsexual" due to semantics... but... (I'm guessing) 7 out of 10 people would consider me such... so.... there!
Another issue of race.
...I really think if it were reversed, and black women were having twice as many abortions as white women, people in government would suddenly see just how much of a "violation of women's rights" making them illegal is, and do their best to secure that in society. I don't think that anything which might really cut down the black population would be made illegal, or really enforced if it were. Cutting down the white? Yup. And if it can't be put on the law books, it'll be put out into society in some other way.
You can apply this to women's issues in more than the obvious violation of rights aspect. Women are seen as baby machines for the race. Any practice which threatens to interupt the working of those machines must be abolished. Sounds like something Hitler would have approved of.
It seems that the "Constitution" is working... to protect the "minority". "Minority" = Rich, white, male.
You can apply this to women's issues in more than the obvious violation of rights aspect. Women are seen as baby machines for the race. Any practice which threatens to interupt the working of those machines must be abolished. Sounds like something Hitler would have approved of.
It seems that the "Constitution" is working... to protect the "minority". "Minority" = Rich, white, male.
(A list of my "turn offs"?)
Basically, it's pretty safe to say that no one can impress me for very long. Even if I'm briefly impressed, I'll manage to find something about you I can't stand within a few months. I live up to my horror-scope sign in this. Anything less than perfect is simply unacceptable... and being that no one's perfect, I'll most likely die single.
Just a few things that'll make me say "no thanks" really quickly...
A non-smoker - I smoke. A LOT. I have no desire to spend my life worried about whether or not I'm making someone's clothing stink.
Insecurity - I have no desire to have to constantly reassure someone.
A liar - The smallest lie will do. I have no tolerance for it.
A non-driver - One in the family is more than plenty.
Being loud - Their voice shouldn't frighten me, and the neighbors should wonder whether we're home or away. Loud noises make me nuts.
The "they just don't want to work" welfare mind set - Not only will that turn me off, but I'll probably never speak to them again either.
Poor hygiene - I should see you before I smell you... and if I want to pass out while close to you, I'm not going to be close to you.
Constant lateness - It's one of my main yardsticks for caring.
Disregard for the law - Don't even speed.
Virginity - There's just one place I have no desire to play teacher.
oh... and honestly?
I prefer to have been in High School around the same time as they were, so being born between 1964 and 1974 is preferable... but I can stretch it a few years, depending on the person.
p.s. - not tipping will do it for me too. If you can't tip, don't go out.
p.p.s. - Dependency! That's a big one, and I thought I'd listed it above.
p.p.p.s. - I really could go on for hours... like I said, "eternally single" would sum it up nicely.
Just a few things that'll make me say "no thanks" really quickly...
A non-smoker - I smoke. A LOT. I have no desire to spend my life worried about whether or not I'm making someone's clothing stink.
Insecurity - I have no desire to have to constantly reassure someone.
A liar - The smallest lie will do. I have no tolerance for it.
A non-driver - One in the family is more than plenty.
Being loud - Their voice shouldn't frighten me, and the neighbors should wonder whether we're home or away. Loud noises make me nuts.
The "they just don't want to work" welfare mind set - Not only will that turn me off, but I'll probably never speak to them again either.
Poor hygiene - I should see you before I smell you... and if I want to pass out while close to you, I'm not going to be close to you.
Constant lateness - It's one of my main yardsticks for caring.
Disregard for the law - Don't even speed.
Virginity - There's just one place I have no desire to play teacher.
oh... and honestly?
I prefer to have been in High School around the same time as they were, so being born between 1964 and 1974 is preferable... but I can stretch it a few years, depending on the person.
p.s. - not tipping will do it for me too. If you can't tip, don't go out.
p.p.s. - Dependency! That's a big one, and I thought I'd listed it above.
p.p.p.s. - I really could go on for hours... like I said, "eternally single" would sum it up nicely.
Sunday, July 28, 2002
(more than words)
Well... all Helen Keller had were words, really... I think that her world was pretty real... True, she had some touch and smell and taste... but then...
There are, actually, more than words here. When you get to know someone, you do get to know what their words mean... personalities emerge... There are also a few "empaths" on the board.
I think that we're down to something like 28 members... I'm not yet sure if that number will drop even further. With the ones that remain though... we're all very different people. We don't have identical lives, amounts of energy, time, or ways of speaking/typing. I can post rules and ask people to follow them, but those rules are there as "guidelines", not as do or die statements. We've all broken those rules at one time or another. Everyone has a bad day. We all get ticked off now and again. We all trip over our egos now and again.
With banning people, I don't ban them for no reason... but more than that, I don't even ban them for breaking a rule. Again, we've all broken at least one of the rules at least once. When I ban someone it's because not only have they broken the rules repeatedly, but their actions equate to this wonderful emoticon:
When you see that a person is infuriated beyond belief, then is not the time to keep pushing them. Speaking of the rules, my saying "If I ask you to stop doing something, stop doing it." ties in with this. It's rare that I angrily ask a person to stop doing something. By the time I say something like "Start posting or get the hell off my board!", or "Stop being such a fucking prick!", I'm beyond rational.
Whether or not I'm right... whether or not the person I'm talking to is right doesn't matter. When I ask you to stop doing something, stop doing it. Why? Because when a person is irrational, they can't reason. If you attempt to argue with an irrational person, and they have the keys to the ban button, you're doing nothing other than begging to be banned. Best thing to do is to stop poking. Put the stick down and let the person collect themself. Apologize. Make nice. Then, when the person is rational again, address your issue a little differently, you might get better results. (If the person sees you with the same stick again, they're liable to beat you to death with it.)
You can't reason with someone who is foaming at the mouth, but if you wait until they stop foaming, it's highly possible that you'll be able to.
Yes, miscommunications happen very easily online... but it's usually obvious when a person is upset. Some of us are more prone to getting upset than others... especially those of us who love others on the board. "Love" makes a person vulnerable. The expectations go up... both offline and online.
My relationships with the members of this board vary, and so my "expectations" vary. With some, like T., I expect little. He was new. Same with someone like Kx. Although they're real to me, because I barely know them, I don't expect them to act in the same manner as say someone like RBW or (dad-unit). As well, my reactions to people leaving will vary. Sk. wanting to leave made me so upset I couldn't sleep. T. leaving, although it bothers me, will not cause me to react the same way.
We're all different. Our relationships vary, and our abilities vary. They vary from person to person, and vary day to day. I'm not unaware of that... but I do hope/expect to be treated like Helen Keller. I'll go the extra mile to learn how to communicate online with you because I want to communicate with you, and if you desire to communicate with me, you'll go the extra mile to learn how to communicate with me. If we do that... I think that it ends up being pretty darn real.
There are, actually, more than words here. When you get to know someone, you do get to know what their words mean... personalities emerge... There are also a few "empaths" on the board.
I think that we're down to something like 28 members... I'm not yet sure if that number will drop even further. With the ones that remain though... we're all very different people. We don't have identical lives, amounts of energy, time, or ways of speaking/typing. I can post rules and ask people to follow them, but those rules are there as "guidelines", not as do or die statements. We've all broken those rules at one time or another. Everyone has a bad day. We all get ticked off now and again. We all trip over our egos now and again.
With banning people, I don't ban them for no reason... but more than that, I don't even ban them for breaking a rule. Again, we've all broken at least one of the rules at least once. When I ban someone it's because not only have they broken the rules repeatedly, but their actions equate to this wonderful emoticon:
When you see that a person is infuriated beyond belief, then is not the time to keep pushing them. Speaking of the rules, my saying "If I ask you to stop doing something, stop doing it." ties in with this. It's rare that I angrily ask a person to stop doing something. By the time I say something like "Start posting or get the hell off my board!", or "Stop being such a fucking prick!", I'm beyond rational.
Whether or not I'm right... whether or not the person I'm talking to is right doesn't matter. When I ask you to stop doing something, stop doing it. Why? Because when a person is irrational, they can't reason. If you attempt to argue with an irrational person, and they have the keys to the ban button, you're doing nothing other than begging to be banned. Best thing to do is to stop poking. Put the stick down and let the person collect themself. Apologize. Make nice. Then, when the person is rational again, address your issue a little differently, you might get better results. (If the person sees you with the same stick again, they're liable to beat you to death with it.)
You can't reason with someone who is foaming at the mouth, but if you wait until they stop foaming, it's highly possible that you'll be able to.
Yes, miscommunications happen very easily online... but it's usually obvious when a person is upset. Some of us are more prone to getting upset than others... especially those of us who love others on the board. "Love" makes a person vulnerable. The expectations go up... both offline and online.
My relationships with the members of this board vary, and so my "expectations" vary. With some, like T., I expect little. He was new. Same with someone like Kx. Although they're real to me, because I barely know them, I don't expect them to act in the same manner as say someone like RBW or (dad-unit). As well, my reactions to people leaving will vary. Sk. wanting to leave made me so upset I couldn't sleep. T. leaving, although it bothers me, will not cause me to react the same way.
We're all different. Our relationships vary, and our abilities vary. They vary from person to person, and vary day to day. I'm not unaware of that... but I do hope/expect to be treated like Helen Keller. I'll go the extra mile to learn how to communicate online with you because I want to communicate with you, and if you desire to communicate with me, you'll go the extra mile to learn how to communicate with me. If we do that... I think that it ends up being pretty darn real.
Wednesday, July 24, 2002
(Board admin. mistakes?)
I think that my biggest mistake was attempting to administrate as "Follows Ravens". I should have just posted as FR and made up another name to administrate with. Too damn honest.
Tuesday, July 23, 2002
When you love somebody
When you love somebody, and they say "I love you too", the expectations go up.
When you bare your soul to them, you expect them to keep that in mind... if they love you.
When you call someone "family", it means something. It means that there's "love" there.
If you tell a person who says "I love you", "Don't take my picture, I have severe psychotic reactions to it." and they take your picture repeatedly...
If you tell a person who says "I love you" that they're not paying attention and forgetting things is ripping you apart, and they still don't try...
If you tell a person who says "I love you" how much work you've put into a relationship, and then they tell you you're not working hard enough when you're struggling to the point of dropping dead...
If you tell a person who says "I love you" that just being around is all you need, and then they go away...
If you tell a person that you love them, they say "I love you too" and then they lie to you...
It hurts.
I know that people don't see what goes on behind a lot of my choices and actions (on my board)... but it has to do with a few simple words.
"love"
"family"
and "I care."
When you bare your soul to them, you expect them to keep that in mind... if they love you.
When you call someone "family", it means something. It means that there's "love" there.
If you tell a person who says "I love you", "Don't take my picture, I have severe psychotic reactions to it." and they take your picture repeatedly...
If you tell a person who says "I love you" that they're not paying attention and forgetting things is ripping you apart, and they still don't try...
If you tell a person who says "I love you" how much work you've put into a relationship, and then they tell you you're not working hard enough when you're struggling to the point of dropping dead...
If you tell a person who says "I love you" that just being around is all you need, and then they go away...
If you tell a person that you love them, they say "I love you too" and then they lie to you...
It hurts.
I know that people don't see what goes on behind a lot of my choices and actions (on my board)... but it has to do with a few simple words.
"love"
"family"
and "I care."
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