ok, boys and girls...

hopefully someone will read this. I know it's going to be REALLY long, but it's just one of those subjects (hence my posting the topic in the first place I guess). Everyone has a raw nerve somewhere.

so.... I suppose that I'll start out with my own answer.

A woman is a woman if:
1) She says she is.
2) Those who really love her say she is.
3) Those who would hurt her say she is not.

A man is a man if:
1) He says he is.
2) Those who love him say he is.
3) Those who would hurt him say he is not.

Now for some explanation...

"Man" and "Woman" are pretty evil words. Why? Because they are generalizations and stereotypes. One of the problems with generalizations and stereotypes is that they serve to make those who they're used on suffer tremendously. The "M" or "F" stamp on a person's birth certificate serves NO other purpose but to allow everyone that person comes in contact with the rest of their life to make judgements and assumptions about them, and to enable others to keep them from participating in various activities and to force them to participate in others. At one point, a person's race was legally necessary on the birth certificate. We soon woke up to that one... figured out that it served to enable lighter skinned people to treat darker skinned people like subhumans quite easily without ever even having to come face to face with them. Whether or not we'll ever wake up to the fact that the Male/Female thing is the same scenario remains to be seen.

If it wasn't for someone declaring what was a Jew and what wasn't, the Holocaust would have been MUCH different, if it even would have happened at all. If it wasn't for someone declaring what was "Black" and what was "White", I'm not sure that slavery would've looked the way it did. If it wasn't for people declaring what is "Woman" and what is "Man", I dare say that the world would be a much happier place. These and other labels serve to allow others to discriminate and persecute to this day. They also serve to make us feel unsure of ourselves. Do you think that without these labels that women who lose a breast to Cancer or men who are impotent would have as many issues? How about a person who has one parent with lighter skin than the other? (That was rhetorical, by the way.)

Labels are mostly evil. Yes, they do serve some good purpose, but not a whole hell of a lot when compared to the evil that comes from them. Labels make it easier to tell stories... Nuclear power is cleaner. That's the way with anything though... it's the whole yin/yang thing. In one, there is always just a bit of the other... making the definitive impossible.

You can't hate a specific group of people, or discriminate against them, or treat them any differently unless you have a label for that group. Without labels, you can either hate everything, hate nothing at all, or only hate what is right in front of your face. You can't say "I hate Jews". What are Jews? You can't call people with "F"s on their birth certificates "chicks", thereby comparing them to fluffy, helpless, baby animals. You can't keep boys out of an all girls school. What's a boy? What's a girl? What does "F" mean?

Things are set up in order that labels are needed to comfortably exist. Why is the sky blue? What is "sky"? What is "blue"? The answer is that "sky" is what you've been told by the majority of people in your life... your "society"... is "sky". "Blue" is what you've been told is blue". If you dare to say different, you're declared "anti-societal" at best, but often "delusional". In the big picture, those who do not agree, those who do not go along with the majority, those who refuse to take society's word for everything are declared broken, wrong, criminal, sick, or insane. Once you carry one of THOSE labels, there is no real comfort, nor is there any real place in the world for you. Your human rights are taken away. Knowing the consequences, most of us become very good liars and stifle any sort of protest. The fear of those labels is enough to make most people into good little labelers themselves and VERY good followers.

Fear helps to keep people blind... it forces people to see only what it is safe to say is there and creates the need to be led. Fear is blinding. Fear is Evil's most efficient weapon. It's important to Evil that the blind stay blind. When the blind can suddenly see, Evil is left naked... exposed... seen for its true nature... threatened with extinction. It is not the nature of evil to eradicate itself. That's the little dot in the fishies eye... the little bit of yang in yin and yin in yang... the little good in that which is evil. If Evil was 100% bad, it would destroy itself. If you pull out a bible... you'll read all about how evil wears pretty disguises. It's actually pretty true.

The mask of this particular evil? That labels are necessary... that we could not communicate without them... that without labels, we cannot love who we are. We need labels in order to love ourselves and others!

I need my label! Belonging feels soooo good... look! our labels match! woohoo! (____) Pride!!! ( _____) Power!!! (______) people RULE!!!! Yeah!!!

Pride can sure feel good, can't it? Evil is rather enjoyable... at first... there's a reason why it's seen as a sin though... you have to control it, or...

...but Nuclear power is cleaner!

Whether or not we let ourselves stay blind... hmmm.... there was something in that book about making the blind see again, wasn't there? That was a good thing, right? If only people could read a book without needing others to tell them how to interpret it...

I'm going off on a tangent... I'm prone to them while attempting to discuss what I think is totally twisted about humanity. Let me get back to the topic at hand...


Not all women can bear children.
Many women separate love from sex quite easily.
Many women are not monogamous.
Many men process thought verbally.
Many men do not need admiration from females.
Many men want to be provided FOR.
Many men are VERY monogamous.
Many men have no need at any point in their life to indiscriminantly propagate.
Many men are not control freaks. Many women are.
Many men don't give a rat's ass about complementing the female, nor do they do it in any way.
There are many men who are not territorial in the least, and many women who are.
There is no such thing as a physical aspect that applies to ALL men or ALL women. Not even chromosomes. There men with breasts, men with XX chromosomes, men with large hips, men with no penis, men with a vagina. The same goes for women, some have no breasts, some have XY chromosomes, some are more muscular than most men. Yes, there ARE some who call themselves men with an "M" stamped quite plainly on their birth certificate that have even given birth.
If you want to boil it down to percentages, it's a fact that at least 2% of the world's population is born intersexed... basically... born both.
Nearly ALL people have both Estrogen and Testosterone. It's rare that a person does not.
Some women do not have ovaries, and so, very little Estrogen. Some women have low levels of Estrogen even with ovaries. Some women have never had PMS in their life, nor a menstrual cramp. And get this.... Some men HAVE.


Not one of these things would make a woman any less a woman or a man any less a man. A person is what or whom they say they are, not what you declare them to be, and not what society declares them to be. The same goes for you. You are what and whom you say you are. For anyone to say otherwise is for that person to insult you and your knowledge of yourself. Does anyone know a person better than they know themself? Is a person delusional just because they don't agree with your idea of what constitutes a specific label? Would allowing a person to state whom and what they are without argument make you any less you? Does accepting a person for whom or what they say they are even if your labels match but your bodies don't really change your label; or does it just force you to take a good hard look at what it is that you are attempting to hide behind that label? (something most people are petrified of doing) What would happen if your label suddenly fell off? What would happen if everyone's labels fell off? If there were no such thing as "Women" and "Men", would your entire identity go down the toilet?

I am not attempting to change everyone's minds. I am not meaning to be patronizing or attempting to talk down to everyone. What I'm doing is stating the truth... as I see it. What you call "man" or "woman" most likely won't change due to what I write here. That might only change after you lose a breast to Cancer, or get your balls blown off. Point is, just keep in mind that when you make a determination about others, in effect, you might really be hurting them, and that no matter what you feel about whether or not labels are evil, hurting a person because of your own desire to make your own self feel more secure is evil by the standards of just about every religion. It's called "Cruelty". If in order to feel like a man, you have to call a stranger who is not exactly like you a woman, you're doing it just to secure your own "Man" label. You never know what or whom a person is until they tell you, and with a little creativity you don't have to call them anything. What a person calls themself is all that should determine what you call them.

(As a side note, that last sentence is incorrect by society's wonderful standards. Actually, that sort of thing got me into many a fight with my college English teacher. It has to be "himself" or "herself" and either "him" or "her". I refused to comply... I still do. Wonderful rule... even when talking about a person we've never seen, we're asked to make dividing lines and asked to polarize everything. Some people don't even want to identify with male or female. Shall we call them "it" and further dehumanize them? sorry... another tangent... let me wrap this up...)

The word "label" is very close to the word "judgement". When you label someone, you make a determination about that person. When you make a determination about a person, you've made a decision about them. You've decided that they are either like you, or not like you. You've made a separation... drawn a line... dropped them into a little hole, which you've dug for them and those you deem to be like them. Sometimes, people don't want to be pigeonholed... sometimes, people like to decide for themselves whether or not the shoe fits.

Judge not, lest ye be judged.

That doesn't just mean don't judge people unless you can deal with them judging you. It means that judging a person can really hurt them and it helps to support evil. You might not be judged or hurt specifically by the person or people you just judged... but you might be by "God", and "God" can be a lot crueler.


This rant has been brought to you by FR - a guy with no fucking balls.