(idealizing - to clarify)

I think that this is about healing... about growing. That's the catch, you see. What happens is part of being "healthy". It's not about the inability to "move on"... it's about the inherent need to grow.

"Not moving on" is a conscious thing... it's "dwelling". I'm not dwelling. My conscious mind focuses on the "good", my unconscious forces me to "move on" by creating the idealizations... that causes me to jump right back into the "bad" situation in order to learn how to deal with it.

Make sense?